Caterpillar-Butterfly:3 stages on the path to find reason to live

The process of growing from caterpillars to butterflies, how have they gone through the development steps?What do the stages of development look like?…


While everyone’s journey or adventure is unique, no one is the same, but there are similarities in the challenges that life brings that everyone has to face, especially when we find Searching for real reasons to live, searching for the purpose of one’s existence. A creative way to look at life transitions between adulthood is to understand the lessons that come from nature, which here – because of my particular interest in butterflies, I’ll take as an example. The caterpillar’s journey through the transition from a crude cocoon to a magnificent butterfly.

Caterpillars stage


Once born and hatched, the caterpillar embraces life and enjoys what it has, busy and delighted with its daily activities. When reaching a certain age, the skin changes several times to adapt to its growth momentum. This is similar to our lives, where we are busy with our daily activities, guided by our own understanding of the expectations placed on us and the role we play, “acting” in society.

These roles are shaped by many cultural conditions, as a result of which we are recognized by others, have security, power, money, and a sense of “belonging,” a sense of belonging. “don’t get lost”. But over time, we feel the need to change jobs, relationships, even families to fully adapt and prepare for our next adulthood.

However, there are often things that make us feel tied up between us and society, as a result we lose interest in what used to be meaningful to us – including work, social relationships, etc. associations, or recreational activities. We lose the fire of passion, obsess about old age and always feel  time is running out. We realize that the roles we once played are regulated by our own family and society. What we have been, are doing and will always do is what they expect, live according to other people’s dreams, not be free and not really be ourselves. And when that is realized, anger and resentment can emerge.

At that time, different individuals will have different reactions: some people will continue, pretending that nothing has changed in their thoughts, they will rearrange their lives like marriage, work then go home; there will be people withdrawing, easing resentment silently, or worse, deadlocked and falling into a karmic situation and there will be people who have the courage to stand up, confront society and hold on to their beliefs about their individual selves, fighting for their true lives. For many, this is a particularly difficult period.

Incubation stage


Entering the next stage, the caterpillar hangs upside down from a tree branch, covers and isolates itself with thin layers of silk woven around its body, and remains motionless during a series of changes in its cocoon. self.

This is also the period when we realize our lives have changed in such a way that the old way of life is no longer relevant. We have passed the caterpillar stage where we live in accordance with social conditions and needs, and now we are searching for a deeper connection, searching for our own voices from within. in: my heart, my chest, my feelings- searching for a connection with myself.

The caterpillar’s cocoon represents the space that protects us during our preparation for transition – a time to adapt and find all that’s missing. Obviously, it’s a metaphor. We can’t be completely detached from our lives – the cocoon is just a metaphysical concept where we gradually withdraw from social activities from work, friends… to focus on figuring out what doesn’t fit. with us and what we want in the future.

When the cocoon phase passes through its equilibrium phase and begins to change, it creates a period of real testing for each person, because that is when we gradually move away from the life we ​​once had to weave the thread together. connect with the real person inside of us. Humans can’t focus on too many things at once, especially when it involves invisible abstractions, when we leave society to focus on getting to know ourselves, we can feel like we’re lost. direction, risking our social and cognitive relationships, fearing that if we let go of an aspect of our lives, we might make the wrong choices, and this stage of incubation is hardly guaranteed to succeed.

But something is stirring within us. We will find that we need to rearrange the events of the past in a more appropriate context so that we can enter a new life, preparing for new experiences. During this time, we receive challenges to confront ourselves, to uncover hidden aspects of our souls, and to grow in a new direction. We will eventually find that we are living in two worlds – the old world (where it no longer fits) and the new world, which is still not clear to us in the present moment.

Some people enter the cocoon stage but then quickly return to the caterpillar stage, perhaps because of the fear of commitment and youthful fervor that still has flickering embers. However, besides those who will eventually fly away, there are still people who are stuck in their cocoon for the rest of their lives. Out of fear, they are afraid of change, afraid of what lies ahead, they ignore and ignore the call in their hearts, hesitate and do not want to move to the future, hesitate not to fly in the sky.

Breaking the cocoon Stage and flapping wings in the blue sky


The transformation from a shaggy cocoon to a beautiful butterfly wing represents shedding the old, protecting what’s inside, leaving what’s no longer needed for the release of what’s inside fully formed. Believing and giving up certain things for the transformation helps the butterfly to be ready to embark on a new life. Although it still takes some time for the wings to become stronger, the butterfly is now able to fly freely, gaining a wider perspective of the world around. This is similar to how we free ourselves to live a real life, free of the burdens of the social needs and expectations of others.

And it’s interesting to note that the potential for a worm to evolve into a butterfly has been in its DNA from the very beginning. That means that the caterpillar still goes hand in hand with the butterfly but exists in a different form, with a different skill, and with a higher awareness of itself and its surroundings. In a similar way, our destiny is implanted within us – we just don’t realize it and can always try to cover it up to prevent it from happening.

The more we give up, the more we connect with our true nature, our core nature, the true nature of our being born and existing. And the more we validate the meaning of life, the easier it is to accept ourselves, we no longer try to pay too much attention to what other people think of us, obsess about what we have achieved, how much money we have in our lives. bank account or the person society wants us to be.

By living a life less constrained, it becomes easier for us to understand the true meaning of our lives and to understand the big picture of life. Each of us has a unique journey with unique obstacles along the thorny path to self-discovery. Each of us finds meaning in different ways when we feel and engage in life with experiences.

Let’s always remember that your life is only truly “lived” when it teaches you to understand yourself and then reveal your true inner self. Accept and surrender to the process of transformation, for it is the only and only journey that exists for you…from a weak little caterpillar to a magnificent butterfly in the sky!


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